Tuesday, June 7, 2011

More questions about love and life....

what I happen to be pondering from 430 am to 530 am on Monday June 6th into Tuesday June 7th....I'm tempted to call it Monday night but that's so wrong. Some people are waking up right now :) (excuse spelling errors involving "n" or "b" I hit them instead of the spacebar a lot, although I'm such a perfectionist, I c myself going back and fixing this if I c errors.... But now I'll leave them, just for laughs so never mind....) ( btw, a lot is two words...not one like "alot" just thought u should know, in case it's a habit)

This has been on my mind for a few weeks but I've finally established a clear thought process of the topic and figured out the way in which I would prefer to present it to all who wished to read it.....thank you. I think a lot of people question these things....

Is love supposed to be easy? All of the time? What is the probability that two people can go thru so much shit at a low point in either one or both of their lives, separate or stick together, grow, realize they want to wipe their slate and history clean, and try to start over with no animosity, regret, or grudges....? Is it a low chance? For love, I'd be willing to make that chance.

I sometimes wonder whether love, or money/success are more important....I feel like love, if right and healthy, can open you and lead you to success you could have never imagined if you didn't go down the path of love...and success and money may lead you to greed, never reaching satisfaction.....

Do you chase money, feel successful first, then acquire love, because success makes you whole? Or if you have love, deep passionate love, do you work through life together, acquire success together and move forward, on separate paths but as best friends and support for one another, almost like having an undying fan club? All the fame and money in the world can't fulfill you as much as having one person who knows you inside and out, truthfully, and is still your greatest fan and supporter, no matter what you do.

On that note, I think it takes a strong and confident person- to stand by someone and be able to accept all that they do and say, to trust that it is truly you they love, and they appreciate your support,---> (as it takes a strong and confident person) to be open and honest about what you do, have no fear of losing your loved one due to your actions *u must be confident in your mind that it is you they want* , tell them your intentions behind relations with anyone you know and interact with etc etc... And live life separately but together.... There is nothing more successful in life than that....and a man must support a woman the way that he was designed to as well as a woman must do the same for her man too....we are created differently so we can equal one another out in the areas that our partner is lacking, both physically and mentally, the former is much easier to discover of the "fit" is correct than the latter is... And it's sad to see that people are sometimes too impatient to figure out the mind along with the body....anyways....

So back to my question. 1.) Do you find success first, and then love, or 2.) if you have love at an unsuccessful, somewhat stressful time in your lives, do you work hard to keep that love, breeze confidently and honestly through your goals, and obtain a sort of success that the prior may never experience because they wasted life away trying to fill a space that they thought their success or money was meant to fill to feel whole in order to love someone properly...?

I am not saying that he or she who lives a life alone, never finding love- or never finding love again- lives a life unfulfilled or empty.... But we all need deep relationships somewhere....I understand you must be happy with yourself and "love" yourself before being able to love someone else.... Perhaps a relationship with God may be the route some take, or finding an addiction to something, be it food, work, exercise, socializing.... But I definitely think life is harder if you find love, lose that love, only to never find that deep love again.... And I believe that "loving"yourself simply (yes I said simply) means you have a strong knowledge of who you are and you believe that at this time in your life (every day u believe it) you are doing things to the best of your ability...

We all change. Some grow, some don't.

Sometimes we lose a love, grow, and find that the love lost was only a small percentage of the love we are capable of experiencing with/from someone new, once we reopen our hearts to the possibility of love again....

It may be all trial and error for some, but damn, the idea of never finding that love again is scary.... Why not take the safe route, find success (whatever your definition), vacation with loved ones when able, experience life with friends and family...and if love comes along, it comes along... Maybe not.... Maybe love/relationships wasn't meant for all?

That sounds cooky to even read again..... But I'm gonna leave it and let you all question what your beliefs on love, life, and success truly are,and hopefully some of you find a new profound truth within yourselves,or perhaps makes some second guess some things....or maybe it will make you realize and appreciate your current situation greatly....

Goodnite.

J

2 comments:

  1. I came across your blog and I must say you expressed in words a very enlightening piece. Thanks for sharing. Definitely a piece that opens one's mind and heart simultaneously, and causes them to explore their understanding of love, success, and the true meaning of life.

    You definitly must have a strong understanding of people. I have read many books that pertain to this subject, one I would highly recommend is "Conversation with God" by Neale Donald Walsch.

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  2. Your post kinda struck me. You have a lot of questions posed and here's my take. It's short. Love finds you. You go about your business, do your thing and when that person comes along it's them you always want to be with. Trust, respect, love, laughter, attraction, will always be there when that connection is made. In due time as all things will happen. So in the mean time live your life to the fullest, take it for a joy ride, pedal to the metal, rock out! Don't even sweat it.

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